Have you ever had a partner who still misses her ex despite fully being committed to you?
During a recent Brave Heart soft chat, Faith from Lusaka opened up about a topic many people quietly wonder about: why do some women move on but still continue seeing their exes secretly?
Her take was raw, honest, and unapologetically real - the kind of truth people whisper about but never bold enough to say out loud.
THE EX HAS WHAT THE NEW GUY DOESN'T
Faith explained that in some relationships, a woman moves on physically but not emotionally and sometimes not even sexually.
According to her, many women return to their exes because that ex gave them a kind of satisfaction they struggled to find again.
SEXUAL PLEASURE MATTERS
She told Brave Heart News. "Some guys don't make their women feel satisfied,"
When a woman finds a man who knows her body well, it's not always easy to replace that connection.
While Faith was quickly to make it clear that not all women are motivated by money, she didn't pretend it never plays a role.
She said some women go back to an ex who "knew how to spoil her the way she likes to be spoiled,"
It's not about what musician Mwila Musonda (Slapdee) said in his legend hit song featuring JK - gold digger - it's about familiarity, comfort, and the feeling of being cared for in a way she hasn't experienced since.
UNDERSTANDING IS A HUGE DEAL
This is the part Faith felt strongest. She continued saying, "Women want someone who understands their moods, emotions, mental swings, and silent battles. It's not about love but emotional safety,"
BABY DADIES COMPLICATE THINGS
Here we're talking about co-parenting, history, and familiar bonds. It's not always always drama, but it's never easy. Faith said some women who share a child with their ex tend to maintain a connection that can slowly creep into emotional or romantic territory - especially when old feelings were never fully resolved.
THE FIRST EVER BOYFRIEND? THAT'S A DIFFERENT STORY.
Faith highlighted something many women silently agree with: your first intimate partner leaves a permanent emotional print.
If the relationship ended peacefully or without bad blood, the attachment might still remain intact for years. "Women, don't forget the first person they had that experience with," she said.
If the next man doesn't make her feel special or emotionally safe, she may look back and not forward.
Faith also tackled the other side: what makes a woman truly done with her ex?
She said when a woman finally walks away, it's because she reached an exhausting point.
"She tried. She stayed. She hoped he would change. And when she saw no effort, she just gave up,"
In her words, "When a woman is done, she's done." It's a final whistle: No going back. No reconsideration. No emotional recycling.
Just to Unlock Your Mind:
Brave Heart News reached out to several women, and our statistics team estimated that 80% fully agreed with her.
Comments
Texina Tembo on 11:16 AM, Jan 11, 2026
I totally agree with what has been stated in the discussion above, Sometimes it's very difficult to move on from your past relationships because of what was shared however, I personally believe in acceptance because it is the first step in every journey that one extends to get to.
So as a lady , when you are done for good and don't want to go back ever again then it shows you have accepted the situation
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